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You can have all sorts of questions about sexuality.
There are many practical questions to ask about it. At sinteze, we focus on the underlying meaning of your questions. Why is this important in your life right now? What is causing you to have these questions? Talking about your question is often the most important step, and is not always easy. Once you take that step, new opportunities arise that allow you to see your question and potential answers in a new light.
At sinteze, we refrain from judging what has happened. During sexual abuse, however, your bodily integrity is not respected. A line is crossed. That matters. We always consider the significance of what you have been through. What would you appreciate? Based on your preference, we determine how to approach your questions in therapy together, searching for a different balance.
When sexuality is involved we pay close attention to convictions and beliefs, both your own and those of society. How can you apply them, and do you want to? Are those convictions accurate? How do they help you and how are they limiting?
In cases involving sexual abuse we apply a working model to free you from any false loyalty that may have appeared towards the person who crossed the line, as well as from feelings of guilt and shame. We also work on releasing you from any potential trauma.
At sinteze, we always start with an initial meeting (’do we match?’). Upon reaching a mutual agreement, there will be a thorough intake assessment (’what is the full picture?’) before we compose the questions for counselling and decide on a suitable approach.
We start by closely examining your questions together: what needs to be prioritised and what can come later? Order helps.
First we closely examine the facts in order to separate them from all the surrounding feelings. Those are two separate worlds that sometimes require different approaches. We then get to work using the plan we have formed. This provides structure, but we will remain flexible along the way, taking note of the areas that require the most attention. If you succeed in decoupling yourself from the emotions and looking at the situation, then we will have come a long way.